At the end of this week, I'll get in a car with someone that has been with me for nearly every day of the last 19 years. Somehow I'll try not to get emotional or too sentimental as we drive down Hwy 5 to Long Beach. I'll try not to think about how I left home at 19 and never came back (except brief vacations). I'll try not to second guess if I did a good enough job as a mother... especially these last four years.
I was barely out of my teens when I had my son. The two of us grew up together - me as a "mom" and he as an independent young man. I don't think I had the same level of natural mothering instincts as some of my friends, but my son drove me to give my best.
I think right before I say "Good-bye, I love you.", I'll also tell him "Thank You".
Monday, January 17, 2011
Friday, January 7, 2011
Christmas Time in the City...
This is the second year that I've been child free for Christmas. The kids spend it with their father and I'm left to my own devices. Last year I visited my parents and friends in Minnesota, but decided this time to stay a little closer to home and a little warmer.
I'm very lucky to be near to San Francisco and I resolved to do a stay-cation there, as most of the time I'm in the city it's for classes or conferences and I never have the luxury of just **exploring**. I checked with my favorite boutique hotel, the King George right around the corner from Union Square, and was astounded that room rates for Christmas week were as low as $59/night! What a deal! It's not the fanciest place in town, but it's cozy, clean and central to what I wanted to do: shop, spa, and sight-see.
Ahead of time I had planned a few things including going to the San Francisco Ballet's The Nutcracker. I have to confess, I've never been to a ballet before and I figure I couldn't keep waiting for someone else to take me: I'll take myself! Wednesday evening I got all gussied up, caught a cab over to the Opera House and enjoyed a wonderful performance. While I don't know if future ballet visits would be my cup of tea, I'm so glad I finally got to see the Nutcracker performed by a group like this with so much history behind it. Bad News/Good News on the way back from the show. I could NOT catch a cab for the life of me, so started walking back on foot. I ended up hiking across San Francisco with a very nice gentleman and his precocious 5-year old son. Not only did I feel safer, but the conversation was pleasant and just being able to see the city (and Christmas) through the eyes of a young child again was refreshing!
Speaking of refreshing - the next day, Thursday was Spa Day at Elizabeth Arden's Red Door Spa! My very good friend Penny and I have been planning this for the last month or so, every since she received a well-deserved performance award at work. We discovered that one of the choices was Spafinders certificates. Red Door takes those and was also highly recommended by two other friends. For me, Costco had $100 Spafinder certificates for only $79.99 so I ended up with a nice savings too. Our day started with massages, then facials (ooohhh how come no one told me about this before??) before a break for a nice lunch. Afterwards we had manicures and pedicures and Penny's package included hair. I took the picture to the right from the Gumps store across the street as she was finishing up. We both agreed that we shouldn't wait years before we do this again!
The next day was Christmas Eve and I visited the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art for their "How Wine Became Modern" exhibit. If you know even a little bit about me, you know that in addition to being an IT geek, I've worked for the last decade at a winery. Learning more about the product is always a goal for me. While smaller than I was hoping, I enjoyed the exhibit and the museum as a whole. They had some unique displays including a sensory one where you could smell concentrated amounts of what usually wine writers put in reviews that leave you scratching your head. "Bell Pepper? What does that smell like?" Now I know! The gift shop has some lovely tie-ins to the exhibit including books, stemware, and interesting items. Well worth a visit. (plus if you hang on to your admission ticket, some wineries up in Sonoma/Napa area have discounts when you present it.)
Union Square was beautiful Christmas Eve, but I was amazed at how many people were still out and about. Christmas in the City is definetly an adventure!
I'm very lucky to be near to San Francisco and I resolved to do a stay-cation there, as most of the time I'm in the city it's for classes or conferences and I never have the luxury of just **exploring**. I checked with my favorite boutique hotel, the King George right around the corner from Union Square, and was astounded that room rates for Christmas week were as low as $59/night! What a deal! It's not the fanciest place in town, but it's cozy, clean and central to what I wanted to do: shop, spa, and sight-see.
Speaking of refreshing - the next day, Thursday was Spa Day at Elizabeth Arden's Red Door Spa! My very good friend Penny and I have been planning this for the last month or so, every since she received a well-deserved performance award at work. We discovered that one of the choices was Spafinders certificates. Red Door takes those and was also highly recommended by two other friends. For me, Costco had $100 Spafinder certificates for only $79.99 so I ended up with a nice savings too. Our day started with massages, then facials (ooohhh how come no one told me about this before??) before a break for a nice lunch. Afterwards we had manicures and pedicures and Penny's package included hair. I took the picture to the right from the Gumps store across the street as she was finishing up. We both agreed that we shouldn't wait years before we do this again! We completed our day with some more shopping (something I had pretty much been doing non-stop since arriving in the City!) and then a nice dinner at Max's on the Square. I finally found a place that made Bramble cocktails and it was just as delicious as the description I had been sent months ago!
The next day was Christmas Eve and I visited the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art for their "How Wine Became Modern" exhibit. If you know even a little bit about me, you know that in addition to being an IT geek, I've worked for the last decade at a winery. Learning more about the product is always a goal for me. While smaller than I was hoping, I enjoyed the exhibit and the museum as a whole. They had some unique displays including a sensory one where you could smell concentrated amounts of what usually wine writers put in reviews that leave you scratching your head. "Bell Pepper? What does that smell like?" Now I know! The gift shop has some lovely tie-ins to the exhibit including books, stemware, and interesting items. Well worth a visit. (plus if you hang on to your admission ticket, some wineries up in Sonoma/Napa area have discounts when you present it.)
The biggest challenge of my entire visit to San Francisco was finding a place for dinner Christmas Eve. I was meeting a friend and the first few places we had initially chosen were either closed or sold out. After a trek across town to a closed restaurant, a short hike with Yelp! on my iPhone, I found us a spot at Jardiniere in the Civic Center. While waiting for my friend to arrive, I was happy just to enjoy a beautifully made lemon drop (or two!) at the bar. I had the Maine Diver Scallops and my friend had the Hoffman Ranch Hen, both of which I thought were simply delicious! It was also nice to enjoy wines that *aren't* produced by my company, and my friend is a wine aficionado and picked an excellent one to complement our dinners.
Christmas Day I traveled up to the wine country - Sonoma County and was treated to a relaxing day of movies, conversation and a fantastic prime rib / crab dinner. My experience cooking is that anything with less than four ingredients is good, the acting "chef" pulled out an excellent Prime Rib with Red Wine recipe. All I can say is that the time and effort spent was well worth it. The sauce was delicious! (Plus I can say I chopped some carrots and shallots as part of the prep effort!).
All in all, a wonderful week - so glad I took the time for myself. Can't wait till the next trip!
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Facing the Future...
Ok, ok...bad pun! :) I have been getting a lot of compliments on my skin/makeup lately which is very unusual so I thought I would share what I have been doing differently. Now, I have super-sensitive skin so modifying my care routine was something that I was very resistant to doing for a long time. I've had extremly bad reactions to the "product-of-the-moment" before and as a result, stuck with just two products: Cetaphil Cleanser and Neutrogena Moisturizer for Sensitive Skin. Then on a trip to see my dear friend in Texas, I tagged along when she went to Neiman's to refill her products. I can tell you honestly, those makeup counters at places like Neiman's, Macy's and the like have ALWAYS intimidated me. #1) The stuff is expensive. #2) The ladies behind the counter either are impossibly gorgeous or look like the casting call for Whatever Happened to Baby Jane? #3) How do you figure out what to use?
Going from drugstore products and prices to department store is not easy. Ask my kids - I'm tight with my money and I'm a stickler for value. Lucky for me, my Texas Twin took me under her wing. When you have a friend whose opinion you can trust, it makes a huge difference. Plus she knows how to WORK the ladies behind the counter!! I walked away with a box full of samples and one key product: Dior Capture Totale (gulp, $125!). This held all the possibility of being a very expensive mistake...
For three months I religiously used the Capture Totale cream, at morning and night in place of the Neutrogena. I was very happy that I did not experience any breakouts or reactions with the switch. When I returned to Texas for my next visit, my friend made a comment about my skin. I hadn't changed anything except my moisturizer. When we returned the department store to replenish my supply I was given samples of One Essential Super Serum and Capture Totale Eye Crème as part of a kit. I kept hearing about sticking with the same skin-care line so the products can work together. I always poo-poo'd that as a false selling point, but I'm a total convert now. I added the toner to my routine and my skin has never looked or felt better.
Wait - I almost forgot a key component: my new Clarisonic Mia that I purchased from Sephora. My Texas Twin had extolled its virtues on my visit, and since she hadn't steered me wrong so far, I was willing to give it a shot (plus I had a 20% off coupon and the assurance of a good return policy!!). Oh. My. God. What a difference this has made to my skin!! I'm still using my trusty ol' Cetaphil cleanser, but the Mia is exfoliating and making that cleanser work so much better!! When I rinse off with water, my skin is silky smooth. Often, I can now just do some eye makeup and skip the foundation (see pic right. Ok, that is with a Hawaiian tan, but I'm actually eager for it to fade now!)
Bottom line... yes, it's a splurge, but I've gotten past the guilt of making myself feel/look better. I'm pushing 40 and I've only got so much to work with :) I spent *years* denying myself simple pleasures because I felt I had to put everyone and everything else first or I was at the best vain - at the worst a bad person. I'm not the only woman that does that. In fact, those of us that do are probably in the majority. I'm not saying we should go blow a bunch of money on something unneeded, but I hope we don't forget to treat ourselves now and then. We ARE worth it.
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
INXS -VMWorld 2010
When you're as short as I am, slipping your way up to the front row is a piece of cake. What a great set they played!
Are Moms Allowed to be Sick?
In addition to the tshirts, backpacks and other swag that I got from VMWorld in San Francisco last week, I also brought back with me a nasty little bug that has taken me out of commission since last Friday. So no Labor Day BBQ for me - I was filling prescriptions at Kaiser and trying to keep from coughing up a lung.
In a rare event, I even had to call in sick the past two days. I mean, we're talking about a person with over 80 days of sick leave on the books and who gained an immune system up in Fairbanks, Alaska. Part of me wanted to just curl up in bed after a swig of potent cold medicine, but the other part of me has a seldom-confessed fear: what if they can do without me at work? I had to worry about that for about all of two hours before the "I know you're out sick but can you..." emails started flying in on my iPhone.
Luckily, I have a great staff that I can delegate almost all the day-to-day issues to and I think it's just as important to show you can build an organization like that as it is that you yourself are indispensable. However, the parent part is harder to offload when one is a single parent. Dropping kid off at school, taking the other one to orthodontist appointment, grocery shopping... This list goes on and on.
What impressed me these last few days is how my kids stepped up. They knew I was under the weather so the little things they normally bug me with seemed to disappear. My daughter was fetching me water and checking up on me. The dishwasher got emptied. Cats were fed. People went to bed on time and woke up on time. "Stuff" got done.
Sometimes it feels like I'm just barely keeping all the balls in the air between the juggling I do as a mom and a working professional. There's not many days where it feels *easy*. This week though, has proven I'm doing better than I give myself credit for. I could be proud of myself - but I'm more proud of my children.
In a rare event, I even had to call in sick the past two days. I mean, we're talking about a person with over 80 days of sick leave on the books and who gained an immune system up in Fairbanks, Alaska. Part of me wanted to just curl up in bed after a swig of potent cold medicine, but the other part of me has a seldom-confessed fear: what if they can do without me at work? I had to worry about that for about all of two hours before the "I know you're out sick but can you..." emails started flying in on my iPhone.
Luckily, I have a great staff that I can delegate almost all the day-to-day issues to and I think it's just as important to show you can build an organization like that as it is that you yourself are indispensable. However, the parent part is harder to offload when one is a single parent. Dropping kid off at school, taking the other one to orthodontist appointment, grocery shopping... This list goes on and on.
What impressed me these last few days is how my kids stepped up. They knew I was under the weather so the little things they normally bug me with seemed to disappear. My daughter was fetching me water and checking up on me. The dishwasher got emptied. Cats were fed. People went to bed on time and woke up on time. "Stuff" got done.
Sometimes it feels like I'm just barely keeping all the balls in the air between the juggling I do as a mom and a working professional. There's not many days where it feels *easy*. This week though, has proven I'm doing better than I give myself credit for. I could be proud of myself - but I'm more proud of my children.